Dear Dating Diva,
In the aftermath of the U.S. election, I found out that my boyfriend may have voted for Trump. I voted for Harris. Was I particularly enthused by some of her policies? No, but I like having human rights, so it was an easy choice as far as I’m concerned.
We’ve never really talked about politics before and I just assumed he was a Democrat. After the election results came out, I was very upset and my boyfriend couldn’t understand why. I asked him who he voted for and he got all shifty with me and started talking about the economy.
To be honest, I never saw this coming. We’ve been dating for over a year and he’s been a great boyfriend. I don’t know what to do. Do I have a serious conversation with him? Do I dump him?
Yours,
American Girl
Dear American Girl,
Your situation is one many women in America are experiencing right now. My advice to you and to them is as follows: leave if you can. It sounds as though you can dump him with little to no consequences, a privilege not all women have. You need to explain to him why his politics are personal to you, and that if he loved you, he would have voted with your rights in mind.
Either way, what’s done is done. He can’t change his vote now. Even if he promises to step across the aisle so to speak, he still made the educated choice to vote for a felon.
I must say I find it hard to believe that you never once discussed politics before the election. Perhaps you are in denial that you’re dating a guy who places gas prices (or his economic justification of choice) before his fellow citizens’ health and safety. You said he is a great boyfriend but he is not a great man. Unfortunately, modern American politics necessitate equating someone’s politics with their morals.
Allow me to give you some unsolicited advice so this doesn’t happen to you again. Bring politics or at the very least current events/scandals/etc. early on in the relationship. First date preferably, if you don’t feel like wasting your time. If they say they don’t follow politics, run. If they didn’t vote, run. You are lucky to go to a school where most students did not or would not vote for Trump. Many American students cannot say the same.
Hoping you make the right choice,
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